The legal system has powerful protections in place to guard against parents who do not pay child support. Unfortunately, these same safeguards do not exist to insure that the money being paid to a custodial parent is actually spent or retained for the benefit of the children. Once the check is cashed, how the funds are used is at the receiving parent's discretion. On the other hand, if there's evidence of neglect, there are remedies. Ask yourself these questions: How well is your ex-spouse caring for your children? Are they sick more often than normal? Are your children well-clothed? Do they seem well nourished, or are they thin and listless? In their general demeanor, do they seem reasonably well-adjusted and content, or depressed? If there are warning signs, speak to a matrimonial and family law attorney about your options. You may be able to get a change in custody arrangements and child support payments in these circumstances.